Dating Tips
Here are the top 10 dating tips and dating advice for those seeking online dating tips.
So I was compelled to write a Top 10 Dating Tips article for you to give you some tips for dating. I feel that most people dive into dating completely uninformed on what they are about to embark on, so I wrote down some thoughts that I feel everyone should consider before they jump into dating. They are date tips! Whether you participate in the online dating world or go down to your corner coffee shop and find the “one”, these dating tips will help you along the way.
Have Confidence
When you have confidence, you radiate and in itself, confidence can be very attractive to the one you are about to go on a date with. Make sure before you go out, that you have your confidence in check. Stay cool and calm, take plenty of deep breathes and have fun with it. Don’t get wrapped up in the fact that this is your “first date”, but just look at it as if you are meeting your new best friend so just go have fun.
Be Realistic
Let’s be honest, God gave us what we have and we have only that. It’s as simple as that. Take inventory of who you are and what you want out of life and make a realistic decision on the type of person that you should really date and I’m not just talking about the outside appearance. The “best” that this world puts up on a pedestal most likely is not the best for you. Just be realistic and don’t pass up a date with someone that you feel is not the “best” in this world for you. You just might be surprised what you will find in this person. Don’t shoot too low, however you don’t want to shoot too high either as you might just pass someone up who might be the “one”.
Explore the World
With the advancement of computers and the internet, no longer do you need to leave your computer to meet someone, however if you are serious about dating someone, you must leave your home and venture out. Take a tour of your community and be on the lookout for places that people get together, hang out and socialize at. As k yourself, “what kind of person do I want to meet?” Sort through where that type of person would most likely be and go there… For example, if I am a Christian and I take my religion seriously, I am going to want to find someone who shares this interest. Go join and church community and find out what church groups that meet on a regular basis and actually attend the regular meetings. If you like to work out, go to your local gym and ask what events that are put on regularly and attend. Join community clubs, non-profit organizations, go to local clubs and bars and basically wherever people go. You’re not going to get anywhere by staying indoors, so get out and go places where other people go. You never know who you might run into.
Trial and Error
There are over 6 billion people in this world. When you look at dating at this macro level, you might feel a bit overwhelmed but I am here to tell you that it is possible to sort through this daunting number of people to finally find your “one”. You have to go into this realizing that you will most likely not find the “one” the first time out. The good thing is that most people are interesting and learning about what makes people tick is enough to keep a date exciting even if it ends up just being another friend at the end of the night. Keep your chin up and realize that one date that doesn’t work is just another friend that you found in this world and another step on your way in finding the “one”.
The Chase
Humans in general like a chase because it’s exciting. You never know what might happen and you are kept on the edge of your seat until the chase is over. It is no different in the world of dating. Don’t make yourself too available at first, but rather progress your relationship slowly over time. So in other words, no sex for you! Most people are attracted to the mystery and the excitement of a chase. You must let emotions, within the relationship, to develop before you dive right into sex, or else you might not have much to stand on when the chase ends. You have plenty of time, so by saying no to your date, this in most cases will just increase the excitement of the chase and will give just another day for a real relationship to develop.
Inventory
We have talked about taking inventory and I am here to tell you that it’s important that you do actually take this very important step. In fact, take out a piece of paper and write down your inventory of who you are and what you are looking for in a spouse and what you want out of life. Do you want to get married and if so, how soon? Do you want children and if so, how many? What kind of life do you want to live? Are you looking to lead a lush life with trips to exotic places or will you be satisfied with running the farm with your spouse? These life decisions need to be sorted out before you let your emotions run the best of you. Love is dangerous game and unless you have this whole thing figured out way before you meet the “one”, then you will be bettered prepared to detect that you are making a mistake.
Clothes make the person
It goes along with Money doesn’t buy everything. These phrases that everyone has heard throughout their life are very important to consider. Appearance is important to a lot of people in this world, even if they never admit it. The more you can do to improve your look the better chance you will have in finding what you want and it will indirectly improve your self confidence which is never a bad thing. Go shopping for new clothes, get yourself treated to a nice spa treatment, go spend the $200 to get your hair professionally done; girls go get your nails and toes done. Bottom line, make an investment on you and it will pay dividends in a wonderful date.
Get your act together
What can you improve in yourself? Gain a few pounds over the holidays? Join a gym and hire a trainer to help you work through it. Do you never seem to have time to date? Take a hard look at your week and figure out what you might be able to cut out in order to gather more time to devote to finding the “one”. Ask your friends what they think you might be able to do to improve your overall you and start working the easiest items to the hardest.
Take your time
So your 27 going on 30 and your clock is ticking. Calm down, chances are you have only barely lived a 1/3 of your life. So what If you haven’t found the “one”. I personally know more people than I can count who rushed out and married the first thing they found with a heartbeat and years later they are broken hearted and divorced. Yet another person I know got so fed up of dating (after dating ONLY 2 guys out of the 3 + billion guys in this world) and married the next guy she met after dating for a month. Crazy isn’t it? Love is built over time, with many years of emotion and devotion to another soul. What you might feel when you go out on a date with someone is infatuation, not necessarily love and it’s very hard to distinguish between the two. Infatuation is the excitement that radiates out of something new that is just beginning to form. Infatuation is also the thing that causes people to do some really stupid things. Just realize that you have plenty of time to figure out what’s real and what’s not, so just take your time and don’t rush into anything. There is always a “tomorrow”. Use it to figure out the real deal.
Get set, ready GO!
Jump in head first. Nothing in this world waits for you. This world will continue to go round and round and people will continue to move about this world with or without you. Get yourself out there and find that person who you have been dreaming about and make your dreams come true. You and only you hold the power to make this happen. Have the confidence that you will make this happen.
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